That phrase seems to have embedded itself in my mind. It's about all those things you "coulda, shoulda, woulda." It's not a unique thought and it runs along the lines of "Youth is wasted on the young", and "the older I get, the better I was." All this while I contemplate my 40th high school reunion. Frightening! Anyway, back to the phrase. It seems to me that most people have regrets about what could have been. I certainly do. But it's easy to second-guess yourself, when making the unfair comparison between fantasy and reality. Reality is solid ground, fantasy is by definition shaped only by yourself; ephemeral and easily evaporated when looked at closely. Hence "Mist" instead of "Missed." I'm actually not an optimist by nature, but thinking of the past in this way, has helped me be more present. Or to borrow a blunt but insightful saying from AA, "If you have one leg in the past and one leg in the future, you're pissing on the present!"


